NEW DELHI: She began drinking when she was 15 and couldn't stop thereafter. From then on, Janet, a 50-year-old Perth resident, would get drunk every time she touched any spirit. "It got so bad that I suffered three seizures. I was admitted to a detox unit and later taken to my first Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meeting. That changed my life." Not only has Janet now written a book about her recovery and learned to fly a plane, she has also built a successful business.
Like Janet, women in India, too, are increasingly taking to drinking. In fact, binge drinking is on the rise not only in metros but smaller towns with cases of women in Punjab, for instance, calling up AA for help. But there are hardly any de-addiction centres for them here. Also, it doesn't help that alcoholism in India is seen by society as a moral problem, unlike abroad where it's perceived as an affliction.
It is to break these taboos that 91 foreign women, all recovering alcoholics, will come to India in the first-ever such delegation to tour the country. Starting January 13, they will go to colleges, hospitals, rehab facilities - holding meetings all the while - in Delhi, Kolkata, Surat, Mumbai, Chennai and Bangalore. Team members say they will "try to articulate" how societal acceptance can go a long way in recovery. Women form about 30% of AA abroad, in India it's barely 1%.
Brenda, 57, a resident of Auckland, began drinking at 13. To compound matters, she ended up marrying an alcoholic with violent moods. "I became emotionally and spiritually bankrupt, and divorced my husband," she says. Fortunately, her ex-husband joined AA and got her along too. Today, this grandmother has remarried the same man and hasn't touched a drink in 28 years. "This kind of support is lacking in India," she says. And she wants to talk about it.
"Husbands abroad even come with their alcoholic wives to AA meetings," says Rahul, a member. In India, most women are brought in by desperate families. He hopes this trip by the foreign women will recognize and address what many parents see in India as a growing and deeply troubling issue. A counselor at a girls' school in Chandigarh says many of the kids, most of them in their early teens, who come to her for help fear they might be getting addicted to alcohol. "Their weekends pass by in a blur," she says.
Aruna, who is in her 40s, says accepting alcoholism as a problem that's getting more acute by the day especially in India's burgeoning cities with their freedom and independence, is the first step. "There was a time I could finish a bottle of vodka," she says. "When I joined AA, I was the only woman member then. It wasn't easy and I used to be so embarrassed. But being accepted with love helped. Just like men can have a problem, women can too. We need to see that. And it's really important that society stops seeing women with a drinking problem as being easily available and morally ambiguous."
(AA's helpline for women is 9971255335)
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